Support For Parents of Child Sexual Assault Victims
We can help where other services leave off.
Individual Coaching
While I typically do not work with victims directly, parents often become divided as a result of disclosure for various reasons.
Couples Coaching
It’s great when both parents can work together to address the needs of their child. Being on the same page and having similar understanding will make it a better experience for everyone.
Group Coaching
We try to keep this a safe anonymous setting online. While no one likes talking about this, knowing you aren’t alone can make a big difference.
The Challenges
Stress, Anxiety, & Depression
Sexual abuse is rarely talked about with parents so when it happens in their family, they rarely know what to do. It can be embarrassing, painful, and difficult to even talk about. You may also find it difficult to find a qualified therapist, and you may get little or no help from your child’s school or the legal system.
Getting Started is Easy
Free 20 Min Chat
Arrange a free call to see if coaching makes sense for your situation.
Book Appointment
Find a time where we can connect.
1st Session!
We can do sessions over the phone or via Zoom.
The Book
The first seven days after you learn about your child’s sexual abuse are going to be the very difficult. Probably more so for you as a parent than your child. They have probably been keeping a secret for quite a while. Now that things are out in the open, you have some decisions to make. You also need to become an instant expert on things you never thought you would have to deal with. It’s a lot to take in. You will make mistakes and you will get a lot of conflicting advice. We’ve tried to create a roadmap to get you through the first week.
The book covers the key things you need to know during the first week from the perspective of someone who has been through it. Most of the book is a resource guide of state agencies and organizations that you may need to contact during the first week. You can get it now on Amazon.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this therapy and will my insurance cover it?
No to both parts. You may be able to get reimbursed through your state Victims of Crime Act, but it depends on your state.
Why isn’t this free?
Much like doctors, lawyers and other professionals we are not funded like state agencies and non-profits. There are plenty of free services that may help, but all are tactical in nature. They get you fixed up and hopefully living a normal life again, but they don’t focus on the longer strategic aspects of dealing with a child who has been sexually abused.
What if I already have a therapist for my child?
Perfect. You will want one. The challenge is what are you going to do for you as a parent? We can answer questions that a therapist or child advocate may not be able to answer. We also focus on a path forward as apposed to dealing with the trauma.
How is this different than what other agencies do?
You will quickly find out that most agencies dealing with sexual assault want to make sure you are safe and have a therapist lined up. They may also refer you to legal resources or victim services. After about 6 weeks, you will find that you have run out of available services. We work on planning things going forward.
Can’t I just read some books on the subject?
Education is key to your child’s future success so definitely read as many books as you are comfortable with. Books can’t talk to you, and even therapists may not have been through the experience themselves.
What if I’m not comfortable talking about this?
Most people aren’t comfortable talking about this. You will find that your friends don’t even want to talk about this with you. It just takes time and you do need to learn to talk about this – preferably with someone who has lived through it.